How many times have we gotten stuck in an activity where excuses created kept us from moving forward? While justifying why we couldn’t do it, we worked harder on reasons not to move forward rather than working harder on ways to continue.
As I sat with my parents tonight after hearing and watching multiple TED talks, we created a set of what was our foundation to our home and our growth as a family. We questioned our existence and our potential as humans. We asked what tools we are born with and which we develop through our lives.
- We decided that our natural instincts with which we are born with give us the will to live. By nature, we are all capable, and have the potential.
- We develop different topics in our lives that shape our personalities and our hobbies and the things we enjoy.
- Lastly, the drive and the motivation to move forward was in part by the foundation and belief that once more, we are capable, and with that optimism, we question “how do we do it?” rather than “can we do it?”.
We all are born with a set of tools, as René Brown states in her TED talk: Power of vulnerability. We are born with the ability to encounter and overcome challenges and struggles life brings our way. By nature, a new born has the strength in his/her tiny hands and arms to grasp and hold and pull him/herself, to turn, to move, and to survive, need be. A baby, when thrown in the air (do not do this without supervision) will become ready to hold onto an object or a person with the strength necessary, via child development courses. A child knows to cry for help, when hungry, and when in need of a diaper change.
When in need, we have the means and the ways to take action, we have the will necessary to move forward. How we strengthen those skills we are born with, is by means of developing, and in a sense working out those muscles.
Like our muscles, we must practice, and we must work out, those things we aren’t so great at, in order to improve. If I am not good at a language, I will make sure to practice, consistently, until, for example, English becomes easier, and so does ASL, and so does Hindi, and Telugu, and Portuguese, and the many languages in my bucket list. I can learn new recipes to bake, to cook. I can and am capable of learning new sports, and of working out my body to become fit. In which case, if we have the will because we are born with it, and we can we develop these capacities through our lives, where do we start to say how do we do it? versus can we do it?
My family’s foundation was shaped around optimism. We never questioned our boundaries or what we were capable of doing, rather that we always could, so we had to find ways to do it. I decided to find the latin roots and the synonyms to the schemas that shaped those who did it versus the ones who made excuses. I found out that being an extrovert and an introvert have nothing to do with leadership or motivation. In fact, introversion and shyness are not synonyms. Shyness is defined as the fear of social judgement. Fear, also found in the group of timidness, mistrust, doubt, and pessimism. Therefore, if one third to half our population is introverted, best believe they are not all pessimists. Some of our famous leaders and activists in fact were introverts. Ghandi, as an example, that while as an introvert and without desire to take risks, understood the necessity to take action and speak up, possibly softly, driven to do the right thing when found with no other choice.
Therefore, we go back to being optimistic, defined and clustered into hope, confidence, belief in once self and of the potential, having trust, and faith. Trust, with Latin roots to strength, and with that connecting it to the momentum and drive that willingness comes with, in our nature. Not to ask if we can do something, but how will we get it done.
I am a visual learner, and so I created an image, or a formula, if you’d like, of how willingness shapes our existence and how optimists knows no struggle, when we are only encountered with opportunities of growth.
The rectangular sections represent the topics in which we may or may not be good at throughout our lives, that be social skills, activities such as sports, or creative outlets like cooking or painting. The tube connecting will, in the oval middle section to our rectangular section of topics is the development. The development allows us to grow and improve in such topics. Sounds fairly simple. If, where there is a will there is a way, we all should be more than capable of accomplishing those challenges. Therefore, what’s the hold-up?
The interference between will and development is the opportunity and support or lack thereof. I found the Latin root to both Support and Opportunity, port meaning to carry. Therefore, do we carry through in order to improve those skills in those set of topics? Do we have the support and opportunities to make it easier for us to move forward? That means that someone else will give you the support to carry through, or they will give you the opportunities to carry things through to see success. In the other hand, you can also create those opportunities to succeed. Regardless, there is no excuse not to work out and develop those muscles.
What do we need in order to succeed? If will is rooted from Latin: wish, and wish is a hope that we have to see things through, all we need to do is be optimistic, where we don’t ask if we can do something, but rather, how will we get it done. Will is the hope that we can accomplish anything that comes our way, as long as we are alive. If optimism is clustered into hope, confidence, faith, and trust, and those are the strength to move forward, struggles and challenges do not exist, just opportunities of growth. Therefore, if we see the world and our lives as opportunities to grow, we can never stop learning and growing for as long as we believe we can, and we can. I am an optimist. I don’t know a struggle that cannot be overcome. Perception is key, and what a better way to see the world than with a smile, and say: bring it on.